Coincidence or Serendipity?

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You be the judge. ;-)

As many of you know, Joe’s Pub is one of our favorite places to see a concert. We’re going again later this week, but that in itself is a good enough story to merit its own blog after the show. None of you may recall how we came to discover Joe’s Pub in the first place.

In this incredibly long post I mention seeing a number of acts at Joe’s Pub. The Duhks were the first, and I was specifically searching for any places that they were playing, which is how we first heard about Joe’s. (As an aside, pointing toward the serendipity angle here, The Duhks was a recommendation by Amazon.com for me based on the fact that I had purchased Nickel Creek CDs from them in the past, and they turned out to be a wonderful discovery!)

During that original The Duhks concert, they discussed on stage that they were really good friends with a group called The Mammals, and that they were influenced by them. That same week, The New York Times wrote an article about this genre, and included both The Duhks and The Mammals in the article, with glowing reviews of both.

Ever since then, I’ve wanted to see The Mammals live, but the one time they were scheduled to be in NY, we were at Zope, and were not able to rearrange our schedule. The person The Duhks most talked about was Ruth Unger (who’s father Jay Unger was/is also a musician). Another member of The Mammals is Tao Rodriguez-Seeger, Pete Seeger’s grandson!

In another recent post, I talked about how wonderful The Tarrytown Music Hall is. Two months ago, I noticed that they had The Mammals scheduled for last night. We were already going to be in NY, so this was perfect. I snapped up two very good orchestra seats, and was really looking forward to the show.

We got home on the 11th (concert was scheduled for the 19th), and on the 12th, I got an email informing me that the concert was cancelled due to a scheduling conflict. This was definitely a big disappointment for me…

Switching gears, which will momentarily appear to be a complete non-sequitur…

In August 1987, Lois was working at Citibank. Her boss sent her to a conference in Vail, CO. As a bonus for a particularly grueling stretch of work that Lois successfully completed, he offered to pay for my airfare so that I could tag along. The conference was from 8am-noon, Monday-Friday that week, so Lois was free every afternoon and evening. I spent the mornings reading John Barth’s The Tidewater Tales. Barth is still one of my all-time favorite novelists, and The Tidewater Tales is simply an awesome book. The first 80 pages are torture to get through, even for a die-hard Barth fan, but the torture is worth it, because the rest of the book is simply amazing. In the end, he wraps it up nicely, and the first 80 pages finally make sense…

In the afternoons, Lois and I did things we rarely even think of doing, let alone actually do. One day, we rented a canoe and paddled around a gorgeous mountain lake. Another day we took a gondola (cable car) up to one of the higher mountains. On another day, we went horse-back riding. Now comes the connection with this adventure, and The Mammals disappointment.

The minute Lois got up on the horse (we were in a large group of tourists), she started to cry. Yes, literally, cry. A woman on a nearby horse had her 3-year-old daughter with her on the same saddle. When Lois started to cry, the baby started to cry too (she was fine until Lois started crying). The woman looked over at Lois and loudly said: “Hey New York, stop crying or my child will refuse to stay on the horse!”

Lois was startled into stopping, and sure enough, the baby stopped crying as well. The rest of the ride was uneventful. Afterwards, we chatted and laughed with the woman. We agreed to meet later that night for dinner. We had a lovely meal with her and her husband (who was not there for the horse incident) and were very glad to make two new (and very interesting) friends.

Not surprisingly, we never saw them again (they lived in Colorado Springs at the time). Lois stayed in touch by phone for a while with the woman, but eventually, that connection faded as well. Last year, Lois did some searches on Google and found the husband’s name as a Department Chairman at Notre Dame. It would be too coincidental for this not to be the right person, so she wrote to him, and indeed, we found them again.

Two hours after receiving the email saying that The Mammals concert was canceled, Lois got an email from the woman, saying that they were going to be in NYC this weekend, for her big birthday (it has a 0 at the end, but still only a single digit at the front) ;-)

They are seeing Wicked this afternoon (another amazing coincidence?!?), but were free on Friday night for dinner. Of course, if The Mammals weren’t canceled, we would have missed them. We got together for a great meal and great conversation at our favorite Mexican restaurant, El Rio Grande, and we hope to see them for brunch again tomorrow morning, before they leave town again.

It turns out that he’s on leave this year from Notre Dame, on a research fellowship at Princeton, so we will likely get to see them a few more times before they head back to Indiana.

Obviously, I consider this incredibly serendipitous, but some of you might think it’s mere coincidence

  • Sally

    All very interesting. I go with serendipitous. That’s great you connected with old friends.

    I’m having trouble picturing you and Lois paddling a canoe…

  • http://www.opticality.com hadar

    LOL

    We were much younger then, though it was likely just as hard to imagine as it is today!

    Lois says that she’s surprised you were more surprised by the canoe than the horse! ;-)

  • Sally

    All very interesting. I go with serendipitous. That’s great you connected with old friends.

    I’m having trouble picturing you and Lois paddling a canoe…

  • http://www.opticality.com hadar

    LOL

    We were much younger then, though it was likely just as hard to imagine as it is today!

    Lois says that she’s surprised you were more surprised by the canoe than the horse! ;-)

  • bob

    the advantage of “double booking” is that something can always fall through – leaving you with the second thing to do….. I go w/ considence…… bob

  • http://www.opticality.com hadar

    Hmmm, that could be a good plan for all future bookings! Thanks for the great idea. When are we next scheduled to see you guys? ;-)

  • bob

    the advantage of “double booking” is that something can always fall through – leaving you with the second thing to do….. I go w/ considence…… bob

  • http://www.opticality.com hadar

    Hmmm, that could be a good plan for all future bookings! Thanks for the great idea. When are we next scheduled to see you guys? ;-)

  • Laura

    I’m voting with mom on serendipity! Although I also agree its hard to see envision you guys paddling a canoe :-). I’ll have to yell out “Hey, New York!” the next time I’m with you all and see if Lois turns around! PS: I only heard a little girlyman in the car with you guys between breakfast and the house in williamsburg awhile ago but I think I’m going to buy a cd – is amazon the best price? PPS: tv is still working great!

  • Laura

    I’m voting with mom on serendipity! Although I also agree its hard to see envision you guys paddling a canoe :-). I’ll have to yell out “Hey, New York!” the next time I’m with you all and see if Lois turns around! PS: I only heard a little girlyman in the car with you guys between breakfast and the house in williamsburg awhile ago but I think I’m going to buy a cd – is amazon the best price? PPS: tv is still working great!

  • http://www.opticality.com hadar

    We bought a copy of Joyful Sign for you. If you can hang on until Thanksgiving, we’ll be giving it to you then. :-)

    Great to hear that the TV found a good home! ;-)

  • http://www.opticality.com hadar

    We bought a copy of Joyful Sign for you. If you can hang on until Thanksgiving, we’ll be giving it to you then. :-)

    Great to hear that the TV found a good home! ;-)

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